Seeing a ProDom, or Professional Dominatrix, for the first time can be as terrifying as it is thrilling. In my practice, I strive to incorporate education and guidance, especially for those new to seeing a professional switch like myself. How can you stand out?
Finding the Right Fit (for both of us)
Whether it your first time seeking a ProDom dominant/submissive relationship, or coming from the world of “lifestyle” kink, you may be surprised by our rigorous application process, initial interviews, and training process (all of which vary from practitioner to practitioner). I see many newbies, and each is vetted thoroughly. So, you might be asking yourself, what’s with all the hoops I have to jump through?
There are many, many reasons for this.
My approach, and reasoning, can be simplified into three categories. These are the main considerations I take into account before deciding to see a new submissive:
- Ability to follow directions
- Trustworthiness and experience
- Compatibility with my style and skills
Let’s review each of these in turn, so you can decide if seeing a ProDom is right for you.
Following instructions from your ProDom
The first thing I look for is the ability to follow instructions. Did you carefully read my website? Did you fill out the application correctly? Did you respond in a timely manner?
This is your first chance to make your first impression. Make it count! Follow my instructions carefully, and you may find yourself at my leather-clad feet very soon. Do your best to be accurate, honest, and…in a pinch…it never hurts to make me laugh.
Standing out to your ProDom
The application has one question that makes your heart race:
What can I do to improve my chances of selection?
First, send tribute with your application. I know I check my Venmo and Cashapp first thing when I sit down to work. DO NOT say something like “For Domination” “Hi Mistress” or anything that indicates that you are sending this to a ProDom. Sadly, the powers-that-be do not look kindly on our noble profession.
Another way to stand out is to have references from another Dominatrix, play partner, or be able to speak clearly about your experiences. Do not exaggerate your experience. We will know, and lying does not build trust.
Skill and interest compatibility
Finally, are your interests compatible with the ProDom you are applying to? I like to think of myself as adaptive and versatile, but we all have something different to offer. Our specialties and personalities are as unique as we are…so maybe don’t pick a ProDom on appearance alone. I, personally, prefer to accept clients whos interests sound fun, compatible, and match my skill set.