My FemDom Philosophy

My FemDom style is just that…mine. If you were to search the internet for “What is FemDom”, the answers can be underwhelming. Believe me, I checked. Seems to be unanimously “It’s when a Female Identified person is the Dominant in a BDSM Relationship.” If you found me, you likely know that. If I was a betting devil, and I am when I know I’ll win, I’d wager you want to know more about my philosophies as a Femme Domme (ah, yes, there are many spellings) and how that applies to the relationship we are looking to build together. If you want to explore other styles and philosophies, I am part of this incredible collaboration project called the FemDom Society and you can explore other styles and philosophies here.

Dominance, to me, is a leadership position in the company that is…well…you. Think of me as your Angel Investor. 

Ironic, isn’t it?

It means that you acknowledge my capacity to guide and shape you. To give me the trust to help you grow. That you can set aside your predetermined ideas about your own superiority, and acquiesce to mine. Listen to me, and I will open doors to worlds you never thought existed. Invest your power in me, and I will match your contributions. 

It means that I’m more than a pretty face in a corset and a pair of stylish leather boots. 

Not to brag, but…

(JUST KIDDING…I fucking LOVE to brag)

I am also brilliant, funny, and can likely kick your ass. If you’re under 6’1” I can also kick you in the face. I know this is hard to hear, but there is a very, very good chance that I am objectively better, happier, and more fulfilled than you are. AND THAT’S OK….it’s what I’m here to teach you. If I wasn’t, why would you be here? For the beatings?

I mean…those are pretty fucking great too. If that’s all you want, cool. I will gladly do so with a smile so big that you’ll be worried I might unhinged my jaw and swallow you whole. If I do, lucky you.

However, and this is very important to me, my dominant side and my sadistic/topping side are not the same thing. Consensual pain infliction (sadism, topping, etc) is an act. FemDom is a mindset. 

So, is it an either/or kind of a situation? Of course not! As I said, I am brilliant and can do nearly anything. Physical pain can be an incredibly powerful motivator. Bondage can be unexpectedly liberating. The sensual pleasure and trust that can come from physical interaction can unlock parts of our minds that we didn’t realize we walled off a long time ago. BDSM requires trust and vulnerability, and when we open ourselves to that, it can be like opening a floodgate. 

I know, because that’s what happened to me. And seriously… goddamn…have you seen how good I look in a corset and a pair of stylish leather boots? I must be doing something right.

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